Many people are very sensitive to the comments and opionions of others. Even a casual remark can wound and penetrate a fragile psyche, especially that of a vulnerable child. Many people with OCD can fall victim to the ctiticism of others. Some react by arguing or fighting, others by withdrawing into themselves.
What we may not realize is that many times, people who criticize or point out the flaws of others are doing so because of their own self insecurities and lack of self confidence. By exposing other people’s weaknesses, they hide their own.
Having said that, we are often our own victims. I think that in this world of technology and global instant communication, it is possible give out too much information about ourselves, which make people easy targets. Does everyone really have to know when you have your period, or that you were hung over and didn’t make it to work on time? Be aware of spontaneous Facebook postings which will bite you in the end. That goes for emotional textings as well. Does your entire addres book have to get a fowarded message from your ex boyfriend about how you hate him because he used you and dumped you? Once you write it, it is there forever to haunt you.
Here is a very good quote from Don Miguel Ruiz…
“Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
Don Miguel Ruiz
I found this on a site – Seven Simple Steps to Inner Peace…
“If we depend on the opinions and praise of other people, we can never have inner peace. Criticism and flattery are two sides of the same coin. They are both the judgements of others. However, we should not allow ourselves to be affected by either. When we do, we feed the ego. We should learn to have confidence in ourselves. This does not mean we will love ourselves in an egotistical way, it means we value our real self and have belief in the good qualities that are part of everyone.” For the full artcle on Inner Peace… http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/inner-peace/seven-simple-steps-to-inner-peace/
Here’s to protection from useless and unwanted criticism and an abundance of inner peace!